Real Talk: How I Balance a Busy Schedule

Tamera Mowry

Lately, life just seems to be getting busier and busier! As a working mom, I always have a lot on my plate, but recently my schedule has become more packed than ever. Even though my days are full of things that are blessings, I have to make a very real effort to balance my time and energy so that I can be the most effective, happy and healthy version of myself.

The feeling of struggling to balance a busy schedule is something that I think most people can relate to. While I have not perfected time management, I have noticed amazing improvements in my ability to prioritize my day by using some of these simple strategies:

Make a list: I am a big fan of lists, and honestly, I would be lost without them. I like to hand write out my lists, but keeping one on your phone works great too. Without writing everything down, it is almost impossible not to forget at least something each day. Making a list is also great when you feel totally overwhelmed — The simple act of just writing down what you need to do, and being able to visually prioritize the tasks at hand, makes a big difference.

Put everything on the calendar: I literally mean everything! I will note just about anything on my iPhone calendar. From notes about what my son has going on at school that day (so I remember to ask him about it when he gets home), to a reminder to leave the house a little early because I have to get gas. I love scheduling notes into my calendar because then I can be sure I am not missing anything important.

Schedule your day: As a working mom, I have a lot of responsibilities in both my personal and professional life. I very consciously schedule my day so that I know when I will start and stop focusing on work commitments, and then I stick to that schedule. Having hours specifically allotted to work really helps me balance my family and personal time. Which leads me to my next point …

Make time for you a non-negotiable: Not too long ago I wrote about mindfulness, and the importance of taking time for your mental and physical health. Even when I am balancing a busy schedule, I make my health a priority, and schedule time for me just like I would a meeting. For example, if I have a workout planned, I block time off in my calendar and commit to taking that hour for myself — no excuses!

Don’t be afraid to say no: I have learned that it is okay to say that you are not able to do something! Setting realistic expectations for my time and my commitments is very important. If I am constantly saying ‘yes’ to everyone, I just end up exhausted, overworked and feeling resentful. When I receive an invitation, or I am asked to do something, I really think about whether or not I am able to commit before I say yes. This strategy has really helped me immensely because it ensures that my days are full of tasks that I am totally committed to doing.

Communicate expectations: Especially when it comes to work, I have learned that it is really important to communicate both my own, and other people’s expectations. By talking about what is expected of me (or what I expect), and verbalizing an agreement, I am able to prioritize and manage my workload.

Tackle one thing at a time: Women are often amazing multitaskers — It’s in our nature to be able to juggle a bunch of things at once. But I have learned that I am usually much better when I zero-in on one task at a time, and eliminate other distractions (like my phone). Whether I am doing something for work or something with my family, I try and really be in the moment and engaged with whatever I am doing.

Spend five minutes each night thinking about tomorrow: I take a little time each night to think about what has to be done tomorrow. By thinking ahead and looking at what I have on my plate for the next day, I avoid waking up feeling overwhelmed.

Understand that you can’t control everything: As much as I like to think that I can stay on top of everything each day, the reality is that nobody can. Some days life is just going to throw you a curve ball, and when that happens, it is important to just go with the flow!

How do you guys balance a busy schedule? Comment below and let me know!

Xx
Tamera  

Real Talk: How Being A Mom Has Changed Me

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Mother’s Day is coming up this weekend, and it has me thinking a lot about how being a mom has changed me for the better. Every day with my children I work hard to try and be the best parent that I can, trying to anticipate their needs. However, each day they manage to flip the script on me (in a good way)! I learn patience and persistence from them on a daily basis. Most importantly though, they have shown me what unconditional love truly means.

My children have also taught me how to be present and in the moment, which is something that can be really hard to do when you are a working mom and have a lot of responsibility in your life. As a mom who can be a little OCD, my children have made me realize that it is okay to leave some dirty dishes in the sink for a while, or to not write that email right away, and to just live in the moment. I have learned that it is worth giving up a little control in my life, to be able to sit and watch a movie with them or just have time to bond.

Growing up, I had a mother who some would say, was a strict parent. Now that I am a parent, I can see that everything she did and how she parented, was done completely out love for her children. I grew up to love the person that I am, and to feel confident about myself, and that is because of my mom. She worked so hard to develop good character, strong faith and to instill a secure sense of self in her kids. There is no way that I would have been able to navigate a career in the spotlight, and remain true to my values and faith, had it not been for my mom. How she raised me has had such an incredible impact on who I am today, and now in turn, how I am raising my own children.

I have also been lucky enough to have children around the same time as my sister! Tia had her son before I had Aden, and she was always 100% honest with me about her experience with motherhood. She really helped prepare me for both the joys and the realities of what being a mom looked like. Most importantly, she taught me that as a mom, it is okay to keep pursuing your dreams while being a devoted parent. That was something that I was really struggling with —  I wasn’t sure that it was going to be possible to keep growing my career and have children. My sister has the most beautiful and special relationship with her son, and she really showed me that that as a mom, you can do both. I love sharing motherhood moments with her. Some days we just laugh because we will try and talk on the phone after a long day, and neither of us can even finish a thought because we are so tired! To be able to experience all the aspects of motherhood alongside my sister is one of the most amazing blessings.

I have only been a parent for four years, and I can’t imagine my life without my children! Parenting is both the hardest and most blissful job I have ever had. When you’re a mom, there is no such thing as a day off, and yes, exhaustion becomes your new normal. But you just figure it out!

Hats off to all the mommys out there! 

Xo

Tamera

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Twintuition: Double Dare Available Today!

TWINTUITION BOOK

Hi Guys! I am SO excited that Twintuition: Double Dare is available today! In this book, Cassie and Caitlyn are on another magical adventure, and this time it is up to them to work together to prevent a friend from getting hurt.

It was so much fun to write this book with Tia, and so special for us to be able to create another story about the strong bond between sisters. I can’t wait for you to read it and hear what you guys think!

Pick up your copy from Harper Collins here

Xo

Tamera 

Real Talk: How I Deal With Stress

Tamera Mowry

We all feel stress in our lives from time to time. Unfortunately, stress is part of life and we all need to learn how to deal with it!  For me, it’s a daily exercise to manage my stress. Some days I’m great at it, other days, I’m a mess. But hey, that’s life!

Work stress is definitely what gets to me the most. Mainly because there are the normal stresses and demands of working long hours, but on top of that, I find myself constantly thinking and worrying about my children. I worry how their day is going, whether they are feeling okay, how school is, whether they ate their lunch, and so on and so on. Basically, as a mom, I am constantly worrying, and that equals a lot more stress for me at work!

As soon as my stress levels rise just a little too much, my natural reaction is to panic. I freak out, I get anxious and if it’s a really stressful day, I cry. I can also feel all the stress and tension start to physically manifest throughout my body.

Now obviously some stress is normal, but feeling like you have been pushed to your breaking point, is NOT ideal! Over the years, I have gotten better at managing my stress levels and have developed different tips and tricks to cope.

The first thing I do is I allow myself to feel every emotion fully — I let it all out, and then after two or three days, I make the decision to let it go. I think that it is really important to feel those emotions, and then release them. If you hold on to your feelings, they will come up in other ways and you will find yourself displacing those emotions on the ones you love. Next, I write down everything that I think will help me deal with whatever is bothering me. It’s amazing how the simple act of writing things down can be a huge emotional release, and give you a sense of peace! I always try and think long-term, and ask myself if what is bothering me will really matter in 5-10 years. By allowing myself to feel, react and then make an action plan, I find that I have clarity.

Exercise is another BIG part of how I deal with managing my stress. Releasing endorphins during a good workout always makes me feel so much better equipped to deal with what is bothering me. I also make the decision to take a break from all things digital when my stress levels rise. By logging off social media and turning off the TV for a while, I get much more focused, and can live in the moment with my family and friends (which is what matters most!).

Lastly, I try and remember that some things just happen for a reason, and sometimes we need to just trust that everything is going to be okay!

Let me know how you guys manage your stress!
Xx

Tamera 

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Real Talk: Enjoying the Journey

Happy Monday! Are you ready for the next Real Talk topic of 2017? (If you’ve missed some of my past posts, you can find them all here.) You may have heard me say the phrase “enjoy the journey” before when talking about New Years resolutions. But this isn’t just some goal that will fade, I’ve come to think of it as a lifestyle. Yes, the term enjoy the journey is a nice piece of inspiration, but you’re probably wondering what it means to actually live it.

Enjoying the Journey - Tamera Mowry

The biggest question isn’t how to enjoy your journey (whatever that may be) when life is GOOD but when times are tough. Can you really enjoy difficult parts of life too? Let me tell you, no one’s life is all rainbows and butterflies; no one finds success without failure, love without heartache. But enjoying the journey IS possible – it’s all about maintaining that attitude of gratitude, and focusing on what is going right.

The trick is not to try to pretend that there aren’t hurdles or obstacles. We all have them and they can teach us a lot about us and our convictions. Enjoying the journey isn’t about ignoring our struggle, it’s about embracing them as part of who you are. If you can start to respect those hard times and realize that you’ve learned and grown as a person because of the bumps along the road, you’ll look at life from a more compassionate place.. One that is not only less harsh on others, but kinder to yourself too.

Once you make peace with the fact that struggles are part of the journey, you let go of the impossible expectations that seem to always lead to disappointment (you know the ones). You learn to be content with every part of the road because it led you to this moment. Thinking of life in this way always lifts me up when I’m down, and I hope it does for you too! It’s so empowering to know that no matter what, there’s something to take from each experience we have.

“Don’t wait for everything to be perfect before you decide to enjoy your life.” – Joyce Meyer

What does enjoying the journey mean to you?

Xx,
Tamera

Get The Look: My Dressing Room at The Real

My dressing room at The Real

Hey guys! You might’ve seen some peeks of my dressing room at The Real over on Instagram, but I made sure to save a ton of exclusive photos to share here on the blog. As you can probably already tell, my dressing room is very different from how I decorate our family’s home

Tamera Mowry's Dressing Room
Dressing Room flowers
Tamera Mowry's Dressing Room

Why? The time I spend in this space is unique because it’s all throughout my work day. We have long hours filming at The Real, so this isn’t just for changing but primping, preparing for the day, transitioning and more. And of course, visits from my little ones whenever possible! Because of this, I wanted it to be cozy, clean and relaxing. Shout out to my designer Alexis Fields for knowing exactly what I mean by this!

Dressing room at The Real
Tamera Mowry's Dressing Room
Dressing Room Accents

And since I spend all my time here when I’m not at home with my family, I made sure everything in it has sentimental meaning. Since I don’t need a typical office space, I carved out a little nook for my Bible and journal… Two things there is always time for.

Dressing Room Accents
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Dressing Room Candles

Instead of pops of color, my entire dressing room is very subdued and romantic. Silvers, creams, and pale pinks are my accent colors. However, what the space lacks in color is made up by textures, from these gilded candle holders to a cozy knitted throw and faux fur stool. It’s all about being cozy and warm… No matter what room I’m decorating, my goal is always WARM.

Dressing room accents.

Got a room in need of a warm, cozy makeover? Here’s a handy guide…
Dressing room accents.

Chevron bone picture frame / White square tray / Light gray/ivory throw / Gemma vase, frost / Nettie carved trays / Wood vintage lanterns, set of two / Victor stool / A frame ladder shelf / Grateful pillow / Small flower candlestick holder

So, what’s YOUR ideal space? Cozy, warm, modern, rustic? Share with me in the comments below!

Xx,
Tamera