Real Talk: Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone

With the new year upon us, it’s easy to think of resolutions and ways to make our lives more joyful and fulfilling. When looking at those desires and plans, you might find that a lot of them require you to be more adventurous or take more risks – whether you’re inherently spontaneous or not. Those of us with cautious personalities may not be have skydiving on our bucket lists, but that doesn’t mean we won’t push ourselves each year to be better women, moms and friends. This got me thinking about comfort zones – how often we say we want to push through them, but how easy it is to stay put.

How to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Though it can be anxiety inducing, sometimes stepping out of your comfort zone is the only way to achieve a goal or reach new heights. This is a hard lesson to learn, and one that you’ll likely learn over and over again. It’s 100% reasonable to think, why commit to something where the outcome is unknown when it’s much safer here, in my comfort zone? That’s one way of going about it, and it certainly protects you from potential harm. But have you ever heard that saying, “If you want something you’ve never had, you’ve got to do something you’ve never done”? … Often the things we really want in life are things we’ve never tried – traveling to far away places, navigating motherhood, making a career change or following your passions – all of these require a bit of wading into the unknown.

Sometimes stepping out of your comfort zone is the only way to test the waters. I can’t say it won’t be uncomfortable – it can be downright scary! – but once you get over that hurdle, you’ll either get what you needed, or be on the right track to finding it. It’s tempting to stay where it’s familiar, but no one ever got anywhere by staying in one place.

It’s difficult to know whether taking a risk will pay off. Sometimes you have that gut feeling; sometimes the messages are unclear. However, if the risk can lead to something more positive or provide an invaluable experience… I think you’ll find it hard not to at least try!

What does stepping out of your comfort zone mean to YOU? I want to know.

Photo: Katee Grace Photography via our family photo shoot


  • Jennifer

    Hi Tamera,

    Happy New Year!

    2015 was a year of growth and change for me.

    I had been asking God to show me the truth about a situation. I also asked him to guide me in that direction if it was meant for me.

    My church had a women’s getaway over the summer. I was apprehensive about attending because I can be shy in unfamiliar surroundings. After speaking with my Pastor and First Lady, I decided that, since I was experiencing so much opposition, Satan was trying to keep me from my promotion. I attended.

    while there, God showed me through a traumatic zip lining experience, that I needed to give up control. He couldn’t do what I wouldn’t allow him too. When I was finally able to give myself completely to him, I received the answer to my prayer. My life hasn’t been the same since.

    The greatest lesson I learned last year was that I don’t have it all under control. Nobody can go through this life without help. Learning how to let go of my way and receive God’s direction has brought me so much joy.

    2016 is all about making things a lifestyle. Prayer, obedience, spending time with God, giving, preferring others above myself, exercising, eating right, ect……

    I’m believing that this year is your family’s best year, until the next year.

    Big hugs,


  • Mandy Cassidy

    Stepping out of my comfort zone means letting myself open up to those who want to help. We recently lost a family member, and all who knew him have offered help. The hardest thing is knowing how to let people help when you feel vulnerable.

  • Fair4theGander

    I have heard a couple preachers just this week say in their own way that God gives you increase when you are out of your comfort zone.

  • lady j

    Happy New year! Stepping out of my comfort zone for me is changing my mindset of What I can’t do or how am I going to do probation it??. This is where FAITH the size of a mustard seed comes in. I am seeking my purpose and passions. I want to be fulfilled with the job I do. Answering the question,” What would you do without getting paid for it. I’m in midlife and need to step into my purpose. I’m asking God to direct my path to be the person that he has planned me to be.

  • Ashley Jones


    I enjoyed this post.

    The belief is so accurate and understood.

  • Tanya

    Stepping out of my comfort zone means not being afraid to take risks. As I grow so does my faith and I really believe that I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me. It also means not being afraid of what people think because I decided to do something out of my “norm”.

  • bob olson

    Tamera , not sure if I got the right page ? Just wanted to find a place to see a little bit of U/sis . Always a trip…she the edge , your the road-less-traveled ? Take that right ! My ‘girl’ from ’75 /’81 was your ‘w’ girl twin . My heart . We split after my accident , T-10 para . She was to be a baby-mama , I knew and let her go . (pushed /ignored) . Not sure which . My loss . Lives near by with christmas or loses contact . Family of course 2/2 gkids . I’ll e mail a pic of her if U like . You will see the resemblance ! Kudos on lil -bit nu ! What’s with Tamar , no show of late ? Don’t watch every day .Love the Braxtons .

  • Tamara, this was right on time for me. About 4 days ago I relaunched my website. As soon as I hit “publish” on my website, I immediately felt nerves take hold of me. I have been reaching out to different women and that’s out of my comfort zone as well. But, as a new business woman, I really have to step out of my safe zone and start standing up for something new this year. I wish you continued success this year Tamera. I love your website and all you do.

  • Sherell Bullard

    This was so beautiful Tamera. I want to experience everything you mentioned in 2016. Enhance my career, enjoy motherhood, travel and pursue my passions in life.

  • Sherell Bullard

    This was beautiful!!

  • Aseelah Duncan

    My new year’s resolution is to get outside my comfort zone. It’s scary but necessary. I realize I could settle by only doing things in my comfort zone or I could grow by doing things outside my comfort zone. I want to grow. I hopeful this year will be filled with new experiences because I am doing things I never done before.

  • Azaria

    Stepping out my comfort zone is meeting new people and making a lot of true friends. This was very beautiful.

  • I think it’s always good to challenge ourselves to learn new things. To me that’s the ultimate in stepping out of my comfort zone. Deciding to learn a new language like Esperanto, or learning how to knit or take better photos. Just taking on a new skill or philosophy is good for our development on every level. It opens us to new relationships and aspects of ourselves we were likely unaware of before.

  • Eleonora Bica

    This is a very important year for me…I’m leaving my job to find something better, I’m join to a Kite surf class (and I’m afraid of the sea!), and I open my mind to meet new people and learn a new lenguage with lenguage exchanges.
    I encorage every body to risk and stepout of the confort zone ;-)

  • This year I am more than determined to step out of my comfort zone more often. It’s time I take risks and push myself to ultimately, better myself!

    Great post!


  • Ayesha Monique

    Taking risks. Stepping out on Faith and outside of my comfort zones means not being afraid of who I am and who I am to become. Success can be scary and uncomfortable. leaving yourself subject to criticism can be scary. Disappointing yourself and your family can be discouraging. But all these things when conquered one small achievement at a time can be so rewarding and empowering.

  • Laurenda Ade

    Wow I really needed to hear this. We are applying to a school for the gifted for my son which is light years beyond our reach in terms of price range. Knowing the schools around me I know my son would just be written off and lost in the crowd. We were eligible due to his IQ and will apply for financial aid. If he gets in it will require us to have to sell our home and move closer to one of the school bus stops, I’ll have to find a job closer and these are all changes out if my comfort zone. I’ll do anything for my kid so we will push on through. Thanks for your inspiration.

  • That is so true…Thank you for these words of wisdom right when I needed them most…because sometimes I feel I want to stay in my comfort zone even though I planned to make this a year of new beginnings. I am a person that preferred calculated small risks than big risks that could fail or create ripples that I can’t come back from.

  • Melissa P

    For me this year, stepping out my comfort zone is doing the things that I’ve been afraid to do because I fear rejection. My goal is to form long-lasting, meaningful relationships. I don’t have that many in my life; I could probably count the real relationships I have on one hand. But this year, I’m going to put my best foot forward in surrounding myself with people of substance, while still maintaining my substance. I’m hopeful for the best and praying every day. And I’ve actually signed up for speed dating. Even though I’ve never done it, it’s just another way to put myself out there.