How to Rediscover Yourself

Hey guys! Today I wanted to talk about a topic that I think is on everyone’s mind at some point in their lives. Whether you’re struggling with maintaining a sense of individuality as your family expands or feeling caught in the hustle of a demanding career – it’s easy to look up and wonder if we’ve lost touch with ourselves.

It’s important for me to look inward from time to time for this reason and I’ve talked about how when I take care of myself, I feel better prepared to take care of my family, friends and job. It’s a little tough to know just HOW to rediscover yourself though – it requires a little soul searching. Here’s what has worked for me:

How to Rediscover Yourself - Tamera Mowry

1. Get curious. Think about what really inspires you, or used to. Think of what your biggest passions or hobbies used to be – maybe it’s time to reconnect. It also helps to explore (it’s never too late to find a new hobby!) and become more open to opportunity and adventure.

2. Get reading. Nothing like a good book to help you discover secrets about yourself. Sometimes reading someone else’s story can teach us about ours. Find a few books that sound interesting and dig in – it usually leads to a fresh perspective. Not to mention it can force you to take a little time off when you’re feeling busy. (Stay tuned for an inspiring book post on my site soon!)

3. Get moving. Life involves a lot of sitting and waiting – and not necessarily in a relaxing way. Even truer if you have a sedentary day job. My workout classes have given me life – you never know what you’re capable of until you really push yourself, and this kind of self-care and confidence is important to discovering yourself. Don’t knock it till you try it ;).

4. Get social. I know, it sounds pretty strange that self-discovery would involve other people but here’s the trick – get out of your rut or routine. Have conversations with old friends or even branch out of your circle. I know that for lots of working moms at least, when life gets busy the social life is the first to go. Yet, quality time with other people is essential to channeling the real you. Make sure you carve out a little time for rediscovering the social “you”.

Have you ever felt the need to re-discover yourself?


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  • Rina Patel

    Thank you for sharing this blog, Tamera! I so needed to hear this while I’m going through a very tough separation. Now the tough part begins: re-discovering myself…It’s nice to know that I am not alone in facing these types of thoughts.

  • Nomvula Mbokazi

    Thank you Tamera for bringing this topic up,i agree where you say reading someone else’s story teaches us about our selves.For me a book that has done that is “Year of yes “by Shonda Rhimes. I discover things about myself on a daily and i find myself breaking out of my shell more and more.

  • Brandi Pittman

    Hey Tamera! I just wanna say that you have been such an inspiration to me practically my whole life(I’m 20). Watching you and the ladies on the The Real has made things a lot easier for me recently. About a month or so ago, I started having anxiety attacks. When I watch the show, it keeps me calm and makes me feel happy again. I am so thankful for the show, and I pray many blessings over you guys and your families.


  • Brittnee

    Thanks Tamera! I will work on this!

  • Sophia

    Great tips!

  • Veronica

    I always feel in some way that I’ve lost myself. Being a wife, mother and career woman it’s hard to find time for yourself as im sure many know. Sometimes it even gets hard to find time to pray. How do you necessarily find time to rediscover when everything around you is nonstop? I’m a mother of two under two and I must say it has been difficult to try and make time for myself and get back to my old self or to where I’m supposed to be. I know I should make the time regardless of my situation but it feels impossible when you feel no one is there to help you along the way of rediscovery.