Real Talk: Dealing with Self-Doubt

Hi everyone! Did you catch my last Real Talk post on setting boundaries? Sometimes you need boundaries with other people to improve your relationships, but other times the one person getting in your way is – you guessed it – you.  How many times a day do you catch yourself saying or thinking, “I can’t”? A lot of us don’t even notice how much we do it.

Real Talk: Dealing with Self-Doubt - Tamera Mowry

Growing up, we have parents and teachers to tell us what we can and can’t do. But who’s telling you that now? While there’s so much more we CAN do, it’s easy to tell ourselves no, especially when the going gets tough. In the past few years – especially since becoming a momma – I’ve found myself capable of doing more than I ever thought possible. Yet, I still catch myself wrapped up in negative self-talk from time to time, who doesn’t?

The funny thing is, we can be so sweet about it. We politely tell ourselves, “oh, I couldn’t do that”. Putting ourselves down in this way can be so subtle we don’t even notice it – yet its effects are enormous. It’s a way of telling ourselves we can’t be trusted, that we can’t handle the things we were put on earth to experience, that we’re silly for evening considering it. While it might a well-meaning voice designed to protect ourselves from harm, when listened to frequently, it keeps us from living life to the fullest.

So, how to combat this negative self-talk? My solution is to come up with a response. Sometimes it helps to determine whether or not these doubts are reasonable. Next time you catch yourself thinking or saying “I can’t” – answer it back. Ask why not. Find out why you think you can’t. Think long and hard about the why; sometimes this is coming from a place of fear or doubt. If there’s no good reason for something, you’ve got one more step – turn that negative into a positive. Tell yourself you can.

Do you struggle with self-doubt? We’re all capable of amazing things, sometimes we just need to hear that voice out – and go for it anyway.

Xx,
Tamera

My Holiday House Tour with E!

Every year, I love to decorate our home for Christmas, but this time around was slightly different. I recently welcomed E! into my home, which I decked out for the holidays. In honor of the season, I shared my fave décor tips and whipped up some DIY projects with the help of designer and party planner Michael Russo – you might’ve seen us work together before on The Real. I always learn a ton of tricks from him!

You can see the tour of my holiday décor on E! tonight at 7pm, but until then, here’s an exclusive peek at the filming and decorating process!

Tamera Mowry House

Welcoming you all into our home…

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Our family room is my fave room in the house.

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What’s in these jars, you ask? We created a really fun DIY gift idea that’s great to have on hand for friends and co-workers, last minute parties or just visitors you welcome into your home during the holidays.

Tamera Mowry House

They’re jars full of homemade peppermint sugar scrubs. And yes, they smell delicious! You can see how it’s done on E!, but I have to warn you – it’s the easiest gift ever.

Tamera Mowry House

Don’t be intimidated by this DIY, even if you’re not the most crafty.

Tamera Mowry House

Another project we did was create a festive centerpiece. Tune into my Facebook video for the quick tutorial.

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Since we have an open kitchen, we couldn’t go without decorating the countertops and cabinets with a little holiday flair.

Tamera Mowry House

Such a great time working with you, Mikie!

Thanks to E! and Michael Russo Events for all the fun. Tune into the full segment on E! tonight at 7pm and check back for my Christmas décor + fashion ideas later all month long.

Xx,
Tamera

Find Me on Cake Wars: Christmas Tonight!

Happy Monday! Hope you all had amazing Thanksgiving celebrations. Now that we’re well into the holidays, I have a special announcement for you: You can find me as a guest judge on Food Network’s Cake Wars, Christmas Special tonight! Tune in at 9pm to see judges Charles Phoenix and Sherry Yard along with host Jonathan Bennett and I determine which team is eliminated in The Nutcracker edition. The remaining teams are tasked with showing how Santa’s elves get in shape, and then they must give The Nutcracker a modern twist. Get a sneak peek of my time on as judge:

Tamera Mowry Cupcake Wars Christmas

Judging the “Elf workout” stocking-stuffer challenge… Intense!

Tamera Mowry Cupcake Wars Christmas

Getting festive!

Tamera Mowry Cupcake Wars Christmas

These designs were no joke, guys. You’ll definitely want to see them up close.

Tamera Mowry Cupcake Wars Christmas

Plus, then you’ll get to hear what I had to say about a Nutcracker-themed display created by the Green team during the judging of Santa’s mega challenge.

Tamera Mowry Cupcake Wars Christmas

Tamera Mowry Cupcake Wars Christmas

Would never pass up an opportunity to do a little taste testing…

The episode premieres TONIGHT, November 28th at 9pm on Food Network. Will you be tuning in?

Xx,
Tamera

Real Talk: How Setting Boundaries Will Improve Your Relationships

Hi guys! Thanks to everyone who has commented or messaged me with topics you’d like to see covered here on my site. They always inspire me and I never forget them! Today I wanted to talk about the importance of setting boundaries – what it means and why it can be necessary for our wellbeing.

Real Talk: The Importance of Setting Boundaries - Tamera Mowry

It’s easy to think about setting boundaries when it comes to people we have a hard time with – like moving on from a painful relationship. But what about boundaries with people who want the best for you, with professionals in the workplace, or even setting boundaries with yourself? This is where it gets tough. Back when I shared my take on how to rise above negativity, I mentioned that sometimes we have to weigh the opinions and advice from people we care about.

If there’s someone in your life that seems to always have an opinion, that’s where setting boundaries comes in. If you’re thinking “this sounds uncomfortable” – you’re totally right. It could require a serious talk or even asking for space, which can be risky. But standing up for yourself doesn’t have to be dramatic or negative – you can say, “thanks for your concern but I need to handle this on my own” or “I could use some alone time right now, but it’s great to know you’re there” – and make just as much of an impact.

Some of you may also have trouble setting boundaries in the workplace. Considering we spend so much time at our jobs, your happiness there is not something to shrug off! It is so important to feel comfortable and secure at work. So if it’s a superior, a difficult co-worker, or any other relationship, make sure you are setting boundaries there too. It could even be something as simple as reminding yourself that you’re doing your best and that’s enough.

Lastly, sometimes we have to set boundaries within ourselves. Yep! All that negative self-talk you’ve been cycling through? Make a commitment to cut down on it (and eventually phase it out). Instead, practice transforming those thoughts into positive affirmations. Slowly, you’ll begin to respect your OWN boundaries too.

The hardest part about setting boundaries with people, no matter who they are, is not feeling confident in our authority to do so. As long as you realize that setting boundaries is necessary for healthy relationships, you will feel better defining and keeping them. And a funny thing will happen – people will start to respect them. And those that don’t? They probably don’t deserve your time or energy.

What does setting boundaries mean for you?

Xx,
Tamera

The Belly Art Project Book

Morning! I’m so excited to share an incredible project I got to be a part of while pregnant with Ariah… You can imagine how long I’ve been waiting to fill you in! The Belly Art Project book has officially launched! On the pages of this book you’ll find over 100 mommas-to-be with painted baby bumps, including an appearance by yours truly. Read all about the project, why so many moms-to-be were involved and scroll through all the behind the scenes photos from my shoot below:

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Can you tell what she’s painting?

The Belly Art Project Book - Tamera Mowry

Ta da!

The Belly Art Project was created by Spanx founder and mom of four Sara Blakely to celebrate motherhood and support other moms. ALL of the author proceeds for this book go straight to Every Mother Counts, an organization dedicated to making pregnancy + childbirth safe for women across the globe.

The Belly Art Project Book - Tamera Mowry
For this amazing project, Aden and I set up our very own lemonade stand. You know how we love lemonade!

The Belly Art Project - Tamera Mowry

On The Belly Art Project’s website you can see a sneak peek of some of the other mom’s belly artwork. Each momma’s painting was as unique as the babies inside.

Want to see the finished product? You can order your copy here or click the image below:

Belly Art Project

Xx,
Tamera

Sneak Peek of Twintuition: Double Dare

Hi guys! Can’t believe it’s been over two years since I first announced our book series, Twintuition here on my site. Since then Tia and I have celebrated our book release and shared both our first and second installments with you.

Tia & Tamera Mowry's Twintuition - Tameramowry.com

Well, I’m thrilled to say that the third in our series, Twintuition: Double Dare, is almost here! We can’t wait until you can officially pick up the books next year, but until then, I hope you enjoyed this exclusive sneak peek of the cover!

Xx,
Tamera

PS. You can pre-order your copy from Harper Collins now.